Beliefs

Beliefs are different than values, where values help to define the attributes that make us who we are, beliefs are what we hold to as being understood as true. Beliefs are not as deeply rooted as values and we can much more easily change or adapt our beliefs to new information or experiences. We can have very strong beliefs but know for certain that all beliefs are negotiable. Often as we age, and gain knowledge we change our beliefs in support of new evidence. Santa Claus and the Easter Bunny are prime examples of change in beliefs.  We would never criticize a child for believing in either of these, we find that there is good to be found in the child learning for him or herself the truth of the matter.

 

As we think about our current belief system, reflect back on what it was that led us to these beliefs in the first place, where did they come from, how they were developed, and finally what occurred that made them change, if they have.

 

Morals

Although many would place morals into the same category as values, I believe it deserves a separate distinction. Morals are both taught and learned, and can be a very strong influence in our lives. Morals are often thought of as being brought forth from religion and form the basis of ethics. I am not aware of ever having met anyone who has a high standard of morals that doesn’t display a high sense of ethics, they tend to go hand in hand. I like to think of morals as coming from within and ethics being the external display of morals. Morals are vital in defining and shaping you into a person of integrity, a person of authenticity, and a person worthy of trust.

 

Morals can be, and for the most part need to be an unshakable part of your being, something that you are not ashamed of defending. There will be people that will argue your position, but rest assured that it is perfectly fine to stick to your morals. Morals belong to you, and your ability to display your morals are far more important than explaining their existence.